Finally as her mother I had to stop her. I knew how bad she wanted it. She had been there working on her own for an extra half hour past privates. I also knew what she was blinded to in that moment. Sometimes you can work and work and get nowhere. Sometimes you have to walk away and leave it for another day. I walked over to my frustrated girl and told her" sweetheart I'm going to have to call it on this one. I know how bad you want to get it but your mind isn't in the right place and it is making your body follow. Let's let it go for today and work on it again next time." I could see she was disappointed but she agreed.
My oldest girl is so much like her mother. She thinks if she doesn't get something it is because she isn't working hard enough. She puts loads of pressure on herself. As her mother it is my job to protect her.
When your child is trying so hard and not getting what she wants it is heartbreaking. However, if we let them keep going we are doing them a disservice. It is our job to teach them balance. I want her to know that perfection isn't the goal. Progress is the goal. I want her to know that her worth isn't based on her tumbling skills.
Then I told her what I feel was the most important thing. I told her that I was so proud of her. I was so proud of her for working so hard. I was so proud of her for being so driven and for not giving up.
Don't let your child get over frustrated. Don't let them think their worth is based on their tumbling. My goal in my life is to be my children's biggest fan. To give them every opportunity to be their best. I don't live through my children however. I do my best not to let what I want them to be get in the way of who they are.
Don't be afraid as a mom to tell your child it's time to walk away. They need your guidance because no one loves them more than you.
Cheers,
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